4 Ways to Overcome Boredom in Marriage

The initial phase of marriage may still make two people flowery, however, the atmosphere is easily replaced by boredom and this happens to many couples who have been married for several years.
According to clinical psychologist and consultant for Between Us Clinic, Daniel Sher, many couples begin to feel the relationship boring when they have passed the transition phase of the initial discovery phase. Usually these feelings are replaced by feelings of security and predictability.
So, if you realize the dynamics of your time together with your partner is not as satisfying as before, don’t worry because that boredom can be removed. What can be done?

1. Give room to grow. Spending time together may feel fun at the beginning of the marriage phase. However, when the relationship has been going on for some time, it is important to give each of them space to grow and develop. “If relationships are stagnant, often individuals also feel that development in their lives has stalled,” said relationship and intimacy coach Megan Lambert.
   Try asking yourself what you want and want to achieve. Often individuals who already have a partner hesitate to pursue their dreams for fear that the relationship will be disrupted. However, remember that you also need to fulfill your own targets to keep your dreams alive.
2. Do not stop knowing each other. Dating is fun, it doesn’t matter if you want to go back to your curiosity first when you are in a relationship, when you two still know each other. Do not assume because it has been together for some time then there is nothing new that can still be revealed. Lambert said, many couples get bored with each other because they assume they already know each other. “But the reality is not. At every moment, your partner is a new and unique human being,” he said.
3. Experimenting in bed. Although you both already feel very suitable in matters of sex, gradually sex life with a partner feels too predictable. You already know what foreplay will be played and its favorite position. This is the right time to experiment in bed. Try something new that has never been done before. “Try to broaden the sexual horizon and explore sexual partners’ fantasies to build new interests and intimacy,” Sher said.
4. Go on a weekly date. Setting aside time for a weekly date can be a time to get romantic momentum with your partner. To keep it balanced, you can take turns compiling dating plans. If watching movies and having dinner together are common, try an unusual activity. For example, going up the mountain, taking a painting class, trying wine, or cooking class. In essence, feeling bored in a relationship does not always mean the relationship reaches “the validity period”. So, if you feel you are getting too comfortable with your partner and feel things are getting boring, try to adjust the situation and find a way out.